livin the single life again

Joined: 25 Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne Australia

I say go with your gut. But then you probably already have.

Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Location: Lost

U sure getting married was the problem? maby she was just being nice and didnt want to bring up your real problem!
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Joined: 24 Dec 2002 Location: South Australia

jonamaphone1 wrote:

just go and see her and do the whole apologise thing, then out of the blue drop onto one knee and propose while shes not expecting it!!!

thats if you love her...

DO NOT do this... if you do you open the flood gates for "if you want me to stay with you, buy me this handbag".

i tell any girl i date early on that there are 2 things i don't negotiate with/bargan with... Sex, or the relationship. we have sex because we both want to, or not at all, and you stay with me because you want to, not because i bought you a ring/handbag whatever. i will happily work on the relationship/us until i drop dead from exaustion if there are problems there, but if they end it, i assume that they figure the problems were insurmountable.

i can't stand chicks that pull that emotional blackmail crap, or act like their Vag is the key to the universe... "i'll give you a blowjob if you do the dishes"... well honey, i probably would have done them if you asked nicely, but now you've just made yourself sound like a cheap whore.

Joined: 17 Sep 2004 Location: Melbourne

bad_religion_au wrote:

jonamaphone1 wrote:

just go and see her and do the whole apologise thing, then out of the blue drop onto one knee and propose while shes not expecting it!!!

thats if you love her...

DO NOT do this... if you do you open the flood gates for "if you want me to stay with you, buy me this handbag".

i tell any girl i date early on that there are 2 things i don't negotiate with/bargan with... Sex, or the relationship. we have sex because we both want to, or not at all, and you stay with me because you want to, not because i bought you a ring/handbag whatever. i will happily work on the relationship/us until i drop dead from exaustion if there are problems there, but if they end it, i assume that they figure the problems were insurmountable.

i can't stand chicks that pull that emotional blackmail crap, or act like their Vag is the key to the universe... "i'll give you a blowjob if you do the dishes"... well honey, i probably would have done them if you asked nicely, but now you've just made yourself sound like a cheap whore.

not only that, she says yes outa of not only guilt, but also lonelyness and all the other crap that is floating around your head pre-break up to decide 8 week's later it actually wasn't what she wanted and it's always harder the 2nd time.

I got mate's who's missus' use sex as a tool, and with hold it from them. EASILY my biggest relationship hate!

Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 7:25 pm

bad_religion_au wrote:

jonamaphone1 wrote:

just go and see her and do the whole apologise thing, then out of the blue drop onto one knee and propose while shes not expecting it!!!

thats if you love her...

DO NOT do this... if you do you open the flood gates for "if you want me to stay with you, buy me this handbag".

i tell any girl i date early on that there are 2 things i don't negotiate with/bargan with... Sex, or the relationship. we have sex because we both want to, or not at all, and you stay with me because you want to, not because i bought you a ring/handbag whatever. i will happily work on the relationship/us until i drop dead from exaustion if there are problems there, but if they end it, i assume that they figure the problems were insurmountable.

i can't stand chicks that pull that emotional blackmail crap, or act like their Vag is the key to the universe... "i'll give you a blowjob if you do the dishes"... well honey, i probably would have done them if you asked nicely, but now you've just made yourself sound like a cheap whore.

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No... seriously... <applause>

Joined: 18 Jan 2003 Location: perth wa

bad_religion_au wrote:

jonamaphone1 wrote:

just go and see her and do the whole apologise thing, then out of the blue drop onto one knee and propose while shes not expecting it!!!

thats if you love her...

DO NOT do this... if you do you open the flood gates for "if you want me to stay with you, buy me this handbag".

i tell any girl i date early on that there are 2 things i don't negotiate with/bargan with... Sex, or the relationship. we have sex because we both want to, or not at all, and you stay with me because you want to, not because i bought you a ring/handbag whatever. i will happily work on the relationship/us until i drop dead from exaustion if there are problems there, but if they end it, i assume that they figure the problems were insurmountable.

i can't stand chicks that pull that emotional blackmail crap, or act like their Vag is the key to the universe... "i'll give you a blowjob if you do the dishes"... well honey, i probably would have done them if you asked nicely, but now you've just made yourself sound like a cheap whore.

i aint that silly!

Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Location: Cooma

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jonamaphone1 wrote:
just go and see her and do the whole apologise thing, then out of the blue drop onto one knee and propose while shes not expecting it!!!

thats if you love her...

NOOOO, don't do it mate. I agree, you'd be opening up a whole other set of issues. Leave it as it is and move on.

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jaztaz
Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 5:29 pm

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My ex wanted to have child no. 2 but I wasn't ready. After 12 or so yrs together I thought that a little more time to make things (financial & relationship) as right as possible was not a big ask. Her & my 5yo daughter are now in Tassie (long way from Pilbara). Anyway, completely out of the blue I met another lady a little while ago (not long after break up) & things are going great!
Also kept my 2 jack russells!

Geez mate, after 12 years you'd hope that finances and relationship would be well sorted out allready, maybe there something else you were overlooking? Smile

Bummer about your little girl. Why u let them move mate? Go through family court and get something formal in place so's she can't move so far away if you didn't agree to it. If your ex was doing the dirty on you and moved to shack up with another bloke, you mite be surprised how much family court will look at your situation.

Although, sounds like you moved onto greener pastures already mate - ahhh, rebound sx Wink

Joined: 04 Aug 2007 Location: Pilbara WA

Let them move because they will be near both our families, good for little girl to grow up with family.
No unfaithfulness that I know of, we got stale, ex didn't want to be here, don't know???
Don't want to have any dealings with CSA/Family Court, they just fcuk everything up. I'm doing more than I have to, both happy with that. It was hard when they went, but knowing family is there will have to do for now.

Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Location: Cooma

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jaztaz
Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 7:36 pm

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Let them move because they will be near both our families, good for little girl to grow up with family.
No unfaithfulness that I know of, we got stale, ex didn't want to be here, don't know???
Don't want to have any dealings with CSA/Family Court, they just fcuk everything up. I'm doing more than I have to, both happy with that. It was hard when they went, but knowing family is there will have to do for now.

Fair enough mate, good for you, as long as kid is happy that's the main thing. Hope you've improved on the last model too Laughing

sounds like you deserve it, best of luck to you